
Probably my greatest heartfelt desire is to know God. I ask myself what can I do to know Christ? Paul considers everything a loss compared to knowing God [Philippians 3:8] and Jesus prays for believers, “Now this is eternal life: that they may know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom you have sent.” [John 17:3] But how does someone get to know God? What does the Bible say about the process?
The first and greatest commandment is to love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and mind. And the second is like it: love your neighbor as yourself. [Matthew 22:36-40] For several months now I believe I have swapped these two commandments. I have made the first and greatest commandment to love my neighbor as myself. I have given into the American tendency towards busyness and simply doing a lot. I have put my job to love the kids in my care as my first priority. I spend half my waking hours discipling/parenting youth and trying to teach them to obey everything Christ commanded [Matthew 28] but the other half of those hours are not spent focusing on loving God with all my heart. Not even close.
There is a certain aspect of love for others and obedience to Christian commands that translate as love for God and knowing Him better so this seems to be working in my favor. See the verses below:
If you obey my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have obeyed my Father's commands and remain in his love...My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. [John 15:10, 12]
If anyone loves me, he will obey my teaching. My Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him. [John 14:23]
For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me and for the gospel will save it. [Mark 8:35]
"Then the righteous will answer him, 'Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?' The King will reply, 'I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.”
[Matthew 25:37-40]
Whoever serves me must follow me; and where I am, my servant also will be. My Father will honor the one who serves me. [John 12:26]
Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world. [James 1:27]
There are certainly many other verses which mention what we should do as Christians. Romans 12 is a whole chapter about such actions. But as we return to the summary of the law and the prophets we see the greatest commandment is to love God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind. It does not say to divide half of that love to give to your neighbor. Scripture says I should, “Fix my eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of my faith” [Hebrews 12:2] It seems I should focus all my energy and love on God and trust that as I do that, the desire to love my neighbor, speak to him about the gospel, and disciple the fatherless will emerge. Below are more verses which mention the pursuit of God:
And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him. [Hebrews 11:6]
You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. [Jeremiah 29:13]
Come near to God and he will come near to you. [James 4:8]
Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart. [Psalm 37:4]
Bethany and I have made sacrifices (they feel like great sacrifices) to try to live our lives to know God by tackling a daunting Christian “To-Do” list. But in this we have certainly had moments when we loose sight of God and just get caught up in all the horizontal work which needs to get done to build God's kingdom. I find myself becoming impatient and frustrated. I end up focusing all my energy on doing things for God and then I sit back like Jonah and say, “Okay God, now do your part” instead of humbly waiting on an infinitely wise and loving God, who is in absolute control. My attitude towards God is “I'm doing what you said to do, so let me see the fruit you promised.” Again my American mentality shows up because I want instant results. I want to see instant fruit from my work. I don't want to have to wait to find out if God is going to bless my efforts. I don't trust Him to work all things out for the good of those who love Him. I need to humbly say before God, “I will walk in obedience and do my part because YOU have a plan and I will wait and trust to see what YOU will do in YOUR infinite wisdom and goodness.” My impatience for results shows I have a lack of trust in God. I have wanted to put myself at God's level and at times in God's shoes and at times on His throne. I need to let the King of Kings and Lord of Lords, the Lamb Who Was Slain sit in power and wisdom on His throne.
As I continue to look at scripture and the example Jesus laid for us, I see Jesus leaving the crowds to pursue his Father in prayer [Luke 5:15-17]. I do not withdraw from crowds to pray, instead I repeatedly forfeit time in prayer to attend to people. The curtain is torn because of Christ's blood so that we may enter the Holy of Holies [Hebrews 10]. I spend time going out and about telling others about the greatness of the Holy of Holies but I forget what it is like to rest there in His majesty.
I believe a renewed emphasis on prayer will help me remember my place before God. It is recorded that Jesus did not focus all his time on horizontal goals for the people around him. He did only what the Father would have him do and what he saw the Father doing [John 5:19]. Part of this I believe was Jesus' focus on prayer. When he didn't want to go to the cross he went to the Father in prayer [Matthew 26:36]. When he was about to choose the twelve disciples he went to the Father in prayer [Luke 6:12]. The disciples waited and prayed after Jesus ascended to heaven so they could be clothed with power from the Holy Spirit [Acts 1,2]. The verses below also highlight a focus on prayer:
Hebrews 5:7
During the days of Jesus' life on earth, he offered up prayers and petitions with loud cries and tears to the one who could save him from death, and he was heard because of his reverent submission.
Mark 1:35
Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.
Matthew 19:13
Then little children were brought to Jesus for him to place his hands on them and pray for them.
Luke 5:15-17
Yet the news about him spread all the more, so that crowds of people came to hear him and to be healed of their sicknesses. But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.
Luke 6:12
One of those days Jesus went out to a mountainside to pray, and spent the night praying to God. When morning came, he called his disciples to him and chose twelve of them.
Luke 9:28
About eight days after Jesus said this, he took Peter, John and James with him and went up onto a mountain to pray.
Luke 18:1
Then Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up.
Romans 12:12
Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.
Ephesians 6: 18-20
And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints. Pray also for me, that whenever I open my mouth, words may be given me so that I will fearlessly make known the mystery of the gospel, for which I am an ambassador in chains. Pray that I may declare it fearlessly, as I should.
Philippians 4:6
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
Colossians 4:2
Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful.
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.
1 Timothy 2:8
I want men everywhere to lift up holy hands in prayer, without anger or disputing.
James 5:13-18
Is any one of you in trouble? He should pray. Is anyone happy? Let him sing songs of praise. Is any one of you sick? He should call the elders of the church to pray over him and anoint him with oil in the name of the Lord. And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well; the Lord will raise him up. If he has sinned, he will be forgiven. Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.
Elijah was a man just like us. He prayed earnestly that it would not rain, and it did not rain on the land for three and a half years. Again he prayed, and the heavens gave rain, and the earth produced its crops.
Jude 1:20
But you, dear friends, build yourselves up in your most holy faith and pray in the Holy Spirit.
Luke 11:13
If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!
Before each respite and 120 hour marathon of ministry and discipleship begins I think Bethany and I need to make the continuous and conscience effort to come before our Heavenly Father in dialogue with Him. We are guilty of practicing self sufficiency and we are guilty of focusing too much on the work to be done rather than on resting in His care and love for us. Here are some further quotes highlighting the importance of prayer:
"It is in the field of prayer that life's critical battles are lost or won. We must conquer all our circumstances there. We must first of all bring them there. We must survey them there. We must master them there. In prayer we bring our spiritual enemies into the Presence of God and we fight them there. Have you tried that? Or have you been satisfied to meet and fight your foes in the open spaces of the world?" J. H. Jowett
"Prayer is the first thing, the second thing, the third thing necessary to a minister. Pray, then my dear brother; pray, pray, pray." Edward Payson
"Each time, before you intercede, be quiet first, and worship God in His glory. Think of what He can do, and how He delights to hear the prayers of His redeemed people. Think of your place and privilege in Christ, and expect great things!" Andrew Murray
Prayers: Our job seems to emphasize our spiritual workload and Christian “To-Do list” so much that we have neglected to put the first commandment first. Bethany and I need to orient our life, schedule and priorities to love our God with all our heart, all our soul, and mind. I believe a focus on coming before our Father in prayer will help us do this. Please pray for us in this.
Praises: I have brought this to the attention of my care group and they continue to provide strength, revelation, love, encouragement, and focus to keep Bethany and I on track! Despite my impatience, God has shown Himself to be faithful to us over and over again.
Stories of adventures in seeing God's faithfulness to keep His promises to His children.
November 12, 2009
Eric's Thoughts
November 4, 2009
Halo Costumes
October 24, 2009
Light in Darkness
I want to end with this verse from Colossians 1:6. "All over the world this gospel is bearing fruit and growing, just as it has been doing among you since the day you heard it and understood God's grace in all its truth."
October 20, 2009
Pork Chop Bloopers
One of my favorite things to do for Eric when we are home is make yummy dinners for him and make the table look nice like at a restaurant. I had not done this for a while so on Saturday night we got some pork chops out of the freezer and I looked up a Rachel Ray recipe under the "Romantic Dinners" heading to find something that sounded adventerous and yummy. The people that had just stayed in our apartment left us some strawberries and asparagus so I was hoping to find something that would put these components to use. Sure enough! There was a recipe for pork chops with strawberries and I could just make the asparagus on the side. We agreed that it sounded unique and possibly tasty. The following picture shows the result of our meal of "Columbus Pork Chops", asparagus, and bread.
Praises: We have had a great couple days off and we have had a much easier month so far than September was. We are also coming up on a big break and the Adler parents are visiting which is very exciting for us! We have also been able to see how God has used us to bless the people we are working for and with. We are thankful to be working with awesome co-workers! One couple even bought us a Coldstone gift card to show their appreciation for us.
Prayers: We are about to spend 5 days at the toughest house in GAP. The parents are new to us this summer and all of the kids are new to us this summer as well. All of the kids are struggling with behaviors and this house is frequently visited by the cops. There is also a set of twin 1 year old girls who will be keeping us on our toes and possibly prolonging our desires for our own children. (Well....possibly.)
Please also pray for a set of house parents who just said good-bye to two little boys who have been in their care for 3 years. They were adopted into a permanent home leaving behind their long relationship with these parents as well as their 13 year old sister who is up for separate adoption. It is a bitter sweet time for them.
We miss and love you all!
September 24, 2009
GAP and the Gospel
This past year God has been beginning to put a desire on my heart for the gospel message. I remember being given the opportunity to be the “speaker” one weekend for a youth retreat. I got the opportunity to give two talks. The first talk I was able to do on faith and God. I was able to speak from the heart about what God was teaching me about faith. The second night I was appropriately supposed to talk about Christ, which I did, but this message was flat and foreign to me for some reason. I realized I was not living day by day with a very real understanding of what Christ accomplished on the cross. That has been changing for me recently.
Last year while ministering on a college campus a freshmen friend of mine pulled me aside one day and quoted the following scripture to me from 1 Corinthians 1.
“For the message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God. For it is written: “I will destroy the wisdom of the wise; the intelligence of the intelligent I will frustrate.” Where is the wise man? Where is the scholar? Where is the philosopher of this age? Has not God made foolish the wisdom of the world? For since in the wisdom of God the world through its wisdom did not know him, God was pleased through the foolishness of what was preached to save those who believe.”
He went onto explain that we can talk to a pagan about the evidence of morality, God's action in history, and creationist science but the gospel will always be foolishness to those whose eyes God does not open. But for those whose eyes God does open the opposite happens – the foolish message becomes the power of God unto salvation. Since then I have become ever increasingly interested in telling people the things listed below. These are essentially the main points of the gospel. See Acts 2:22-38 to read about Peter presenting the gospel message or take a walk down the “Romans Road”.
- God is Holy and lives in unapproachable light. [1 Timothy 6:16]
- We all are sinners. [Romans 3:23]
- God cannot be with sin. [Adam and Eve]
- Jesus takes our penalty of sin [Cross] and then gives us His perfect righteousness. [Colossians 1:22]
- Once our sin is taken away he gives us the Holy Spirit to be our counselor and guide. [Acts 2:38]
So the result of my discussion with the founder of GAP was that he was very willing to let me preach and teach about the gospel but he doesn't want it to prevent me from doing my job for the state well. I should try to prevent having the gospel be a reason kids are blowing up in my house and case workers are calling me. I guess there are drawbacks from being state funded but I don't foresee this being a problem especially if I am simply trying to be faithful.
Prayers: Bethany and I are still in a tough place where part of us wants to leave our job and have more time for each other and friends. I also want to stay in a place where I am growing in “losing my life for the sake of the gospel” and make these sacrifices to see God change these kids lives. The only way Bethany and I can stay in this job is by the power of the Holy Spirit working in us and the kids to make our desires more for God then for ourselves. So we ask you to pray towards that end. Pray that Bethany and I would be like Paul and really find contentment in all circumstances and joy in our trials. Pray that God would provide in every way to sustain us and praise Him. Otherwise it is only a matter of time until we move on. Pray also for us as we start at a new house this week with 11 kids! We are once again intimidated and will try to press into the Lord for strength.
Praises: Eric had a good meeting with the founder. We both had good times hanging out with friends from small group this break.
September 11, 2009
Snack Thieves and the Gospel
I also got to talk to a young girl who was willfully choosing to sin while calling herself a Christian. I talked to her about why a Christian would stop sinning. I informed her that there was one major difference between myself and her. I said, “I do not choose sin over and over because I have the Holy Spirit living inside of me which makes all those sins you are so interested in pale and meaningless compared to God's love for me and my desire to do what God wants. I want to not walk in sin because my love for God is greater than my love for myself.” It was neat to see this young lady who was so intent on doing what she wanted stop and ponder those words. I only pray God makes His word effective.
August 11, 2009
Goodwill Is Fully Awesome
August 10, 2009
Hotel Reinhold
Here is a video showing the emptiness followed by the fullness.

Bethany and Jenae finishing up some yummy pulled pork for lunch.
August 7, 2009
The Moving Begins
August 6, 2009
July Happenings
We also went to a Tucson Toros baseball game thanks to some friends who won the tickets and couldn't go. We didn't know that it was going to be $1 beer night so it was a little crazy and also very hot. Poor Eric didn't feel very good for most of the game so I think I enjoyed it more than him. We left before it was over but I loved watching a live game. I think our next sporting event will probably be this Sunday when the Yankees and the Red Sox play but we will watch it in an air conditioned restaurant with more beverage variety.
July 16, 2009
Happy Birthday, Eric!

Thank you to all of you who were praying for our last respite. We made it through with 9 kids and no major incidents or problems. It was hot for sure but they have a pool at the house which we enjoyed. If God lays it on your heart you could pray for two teenage girls at Splash 1 who got into a fight with each other at a different group home and have now ended up living in GAP together. Eric talked to one of the girls a little bit about forgiveness and reconciliation. Both girls want to go back to living with their moms but they need to be succesful where they are at so pray for their situation and for wisdom for their house parents.
July 9, 2009
New House - 10 Kids
Your prayers make all the difference. Thank you for praying for us.
Praises: God helped me to fix a computer I was working on for probably 12 hours!
July 6, 2009
Precious Moments
We have lived in Arizona for almost a year and last night for the first time we saw a real live moving tarantula in the parking lot of our apartment complex. Yuck!
My wonderful husband bought me some daisys to brighten up our kitchen table. It makes it cheery inside where we spend most of our time because it's too hot to go out!
July 3, 2009
Vancouver, B.C.
We flew up to Vancouver via the graciousness of Eric's parents. His dad had a business meeting up there and then rented a vacation home for a few days. Check out his companies website here. Eric's mom and older brother, Dan, also joined us for the stay. Our activities included roller blading around a beautiful park overlooking the ocean, kayaking up a fjiord, taking a ferry ride, walking through beautiful woods and hiking to the top of a mountain in the snow while wearing t-shirts and shorts. As you can see from the pictures below, Vancouver is one of the most beautiful places in the world, especially if you like to be outside. Our weather was perfect and every day was full of adventure. It was a great way to mark one year of marriage and it was cool how the activities we did reminded us of the same things we did on our honeymoon, including celebrating Canada Day! (To refresh yourself on our honeymoon, refer to the beginning of this blog).
We are very grateful to Eric's parents for giving us such a great vacation!
June 10, 2009
Technologic
If you have a device which you want to have on the internet but it is a huge hassle to plug into your router because it is in a different room, then this article is for you!Technologic is the name of a very cool song. Look it up on YouTube. I call this blog Technologic because more and more do I seem to be the technology geek in GAP. I guess my father's blood runs in my veins because I am fascinated with solving computer problems. God bless my wife for putting up with me while I am hacking away at computer problems.
So I am writing this post because open source software (Unix) has broken into my life once again in a wonderful way. Open source software is programming that utalitarian super nerds somewhere out there in cyberspace decide to create and give away for FREE! Some examples of open source software are: OpenOffice, Firefox, and Thunderbird. Unix is code that everyone is required to share freely. Is there really anywhere else in the world that people just create things and give them away for free? Thanks to this open source unix firmware I have figured out how to do something so cool with a wireless Linksys router that I am compelled to share.
I installed DD-WRT firmware on a WRT54G.
Let me tell you how it works. DD-WRT firmware is unix based software which gives ordinary routers extra special features. First visit this website and see if you have a router which in on the list of approved devices.
Then go to the “Tutorials” section of the website and follow the instructions. There is a lot you can do with this firmware! Read up on it and see if there is any extra functionality you wish your router could do. Happy routing!
June 5, 2009
Grand Canyon
The first night Casey told us how to get to the canyon and what time the sun would be setting. We headed out for our first look at the massive crack in the earth. There were clouds that evening so sunset wasn't that spectacular over the west view of the canyon but our first sights of the natural wonder took our breaths away. It is simply stunning to see! The next day we took lots of pictures along the south rim and then ventured down for about 1.5 miles before we turned around, passing mules and many hardcore hikers. That barely gave us a taste of what it's like to hike the whole thing. We definitely want to go back and maybe try to make the 2 day hike to the hidden Havasu Falls. There is no road that leads to the falls and it is on an Indian reservation. Anyone up for a trip to one of the most photographed water falls in the US?
There is an amazing tourist town set up on the edge of the Grand Canyon with people visiting from all over the world. We ate at a restaurant (the food wasn't special, really it wasn't. I had turkey and cheese on wonder bread for more money than your average all-you-can-eat buffet) but we had a very respectful Chinese waiter who would bow every time he came by our table. I opened the door for an elderly couple and they responded, “Merci” sadly my French failed me and I simply smiled and bowed like my Chinese waiter had taught me. As we walked around the park we noticed that dozens of nationalities seemed to be represented. We saw Germans, Chinese, French, Hindus, Mexicans, and heard plenty of languages being spoken I simply did not recognize.